Higher Self Versus Ego

Developing a clear connection with your Higher Self is of utmost importance in consciousness development, as it allows you to receive vital information throughout your daily life. This information can be as simple as deciding what food to eat, or it can be as complex as thinking on your feet during a crisis. The only question is, how do you discern between your Higher Self and your ego?

Like the metaphorical depiction of the angel and the devil on Man’s shoulders, the Higher Self speaks truth and love, while the ego’s primary concern is control and comfort. There are times when the friction becomes so strong, that we have a debate in our minds, as we try to decide which side is offering the better choice.

An effective method to discern truth from distortion is to listen to your initial feeling. If right away you receive a boost of positive energy without any resistance, then it’s most likely a choice deriving from your Higher Self.

On the other hand, if the choice comes with much discomfort and resistance, and you feel a sense of distortion or superficiality involved, then it’s most likely something that is deriving from a place of ego, manipulation, or temptation.

Just to reiterate, it is important to pay attention to your initial feeling, or your gut feeling, when attempting discernment. It can be very easy to fall into a place of fear, which induces resistance, even if your initial feeling was clearly positive.

4 thoughts on “Higher Self Versus Ego

  1. Hi Skyler!
    I read two things years ago which helped me in distinguishing what’s coming from the ego (which as we all know is expert at disguising itself! :-)), and what’s coming from the Higher Self. (One was in Anthony de Mello’s book, Awareness’, which is hands down the best book I’ve ever read; basically a guide to all the cunning cloaks our egoism wears, and how to see through them).
    One method is to pretend that someone else, a stranger, is doing/saying/thinking what we are …… and observe if our enthusiasm suddenly wanes.
    For instance, we have an idea, & we tell ourselves we’re doing it from pure, noble idealism, and we get all fired-up. Or we paint a picture, whatever. Would we be as deeply interested in that if someone else were doing it? Or would we lose interest?
    (I had a boyfriend once, and he pointed out – accurately – “You know, your ‘love’ for me is really egoism. You ‘love’ me because of how good YOU feel, not for myself.”
    Me: “No, no, my love is completely unconditional, I genuinely want the best for you.”
    Next time we met, he announced that he’d always felt Australia would be good for him, and was thinking of emigrating there.
    I went bananas: “WHAT?! Australia?? But what about us?!” 😀
    When my breathing had returned to normal, he said kindly, “I’m not going to Australia. But I wanted to show you how you weren’t actually thinking of me there, at all. I even told you I felt Australia would be good for me as a person. Most ‘love’ is just ego.”
    He was absolutely right! 🙂

    The other thing I read, which sounds simple and banal, but I’ve found it a fantastic help, was that, in everything we do and say, literally in every moment, we always have two choices: “Is this going to benefit me, or will it benefit another human being or animal?” The benefits to self can be really subtle. Another really interesting thing I’ve learned (slowly, over the years ……. as a later born Crystalline, you were born more advanced than those of us born in the 1960s :-)) is that, as you said, things from the HS always have a positive energy behind them, and that all pain comes from the ego. So if we’re saying or doing something that we think came from our HS, and we get upset if it’s hindered or scoffed at, then chances are that it came from our ego. I used to balk at this years ago, but it’s true!


  2. Oh, I’ve just remembered another one! (Sorry if I’m flooding your site with my comments, Skyler; there are so few people even interested in discussing the things you bring up here. :))
    This is REALLY good; if I could, I would teach this in schools. It can’t tell you if inner words are true or not, but it works 100% with written material …….. you know those channeled messages etc, where you’re thinking, ‘Mmm, there seems to be some truth here ….’, but you’re not sure if it’s all true, there might be some distortion?

    In front of your physical eyes, you have etheric eyes: and they are much more sensitive to spiritual truth or untruth. If you read something that isn’t true, your etheric eyes will sting. You know the sore feeling your physical eyes get in a smoky room or from tiredness? Or how ammonia makes your eyes water? It’s just like that, only more subtle.
    The ‘wow’ factor is, you can train yourself to notice this; so well that you can even pick out the inaccurate sentences in a text, & the degree of untruth. (Eg, a deliberate charlatan, who’s lying, and knows he’s lying, will *really* make your eyes sting, as if someone’s poured ammonia into them. There are some ‘channelers’ – I’d better not name them, maybe I could get sued for libel 🙂 – who I literally can’t read beyond a paragraph, not even for critical purposes, because their words make my eyes sting so badly).
    You have to be fairly relaxed to do this …… if there are too many 3D distractions going on, it’s harder to pick up what your etheric body is telling you. But you don’t need to be in a deep meditative state.
    It works with words on paper, and words on a phone or computer.

    What I did was, open in one computer window, a piece of spiritual writing I absolutely 100% know to be true. In another window, find the worst possible example you can of fakery. (Preferably not just a deluded ‘lightworker’, but something where the ‘guru’ was a total charlatan and deliberately lying. You want to find two extremes.
    You read the true bit for a while, say 10 – 15 minutes, then suddenly switch to the ‘fake’ window. Watch what happens with your eyes. You’ll instinctively narrow them a bit, because you feel a faint stinging sensation. It’7 faint, but perceptible. Then go back to the other window, and notice how your eyes seem to relax.
    If you keep practising this, you learn what untruth feels like to your etheric eyes, to the point where you can notice one erroneous sentence in a page.
    I thought I’d pass this on, because I was so excited when I discovered this a few years ago!
    A sobering note, and why Georgi Stankov is right to try and get the fake garbage OFF the internet ……. when people read too much of the deluded/fake stuff (like those women who gullibly read every channeling, every blog, et etc), they’re de-sensitising their etheric eyes. That is, they get so used to the faint stinging sensation, that it feels normal. Have you noticed that people who just read everything, mindlessly and uncritically, end up believing anything? They lose what discernment they did have, it’s depressing. 🙁


    • It’s no problem, Barbara, indeed, there are only so many places one can go to find good conversation these days ;). You bring up another great tactic, and I hope that others can use this advice or develop their own ways to discern between the garbage and the gold. At this point I’ve become quite proficient at scanning energy, and I can easily identify what is valuable and what is not pretty much instantly. There are various indicators, but it all comes down to developing a basic sense of energy sensitivity and a trained eye.

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